All posts tagged: bullies

The Bullies Among Us

What does a bully look like? Many of us envision an oversized mean kid able to stuff us inside a trashcan with the help of a few terrified minions into whom he’s pounded the fear of God with his fists. That’s our stereotype. The truth of bullying is that we are never too old (or too young) to find ourselves continually on the receiving end of someone’s–or several someones’ insecurities and inabilities to communicate emotions and frustrations without ripping into another. Siblings, spouses, friends, parents, bosses, teachers, and co-workers all are capable of some really awful and continuous nastiness in their efforts to make themselves feel more powerful, successful, popular and superior. Sometimes they don’t mean to keep us on the awful roller coaster. Sometimes they, sadly, do. Sometimes it’s straight-up physical or verbal meanness. Often, the abuse is much more subtle. The most confusing bullies make you question yourself. They twist your words around and throw things back at you to confuse. These people can be the people who love you. They might really …