Me too. Yes, I’ve been groped. I’ve been intentionally made to feel less by some males
in my past. I was lucky it wasn’t worse. I know some women, and men, have been in far more abusive and powerless situations than I was. Using one’s position to diminish another is hateful and intentional. So, I’m all in with bringing this into the light and sharing the magnitude of the problem. It should be addressed, and victims should understand they are not alone.
I have to say, though, that I’ve been more brutalized by women through the years. Not in a groping or physical sense, but in a true lasting-kind-of-damage way. Women in my life who I’m linking arms with right now and chanting “me, too” with. Some of the very same have been my tormentors.
Women aren’t always part of the us and them. They are often of the me variety when they have a need to feel more powerful or to make another feel small so they can step a little higher, climbing over other women to stand at the top of the heap or let some blood on the way up. Jealousy, insecurity, or whatever drives this behavior brings out the opposite of sisterhood. The wounds are deep causing scars that last.
I’m a pleaser by nature. I work hard to keep friendships that last. I’m strong, but don’t often see a reason to stir things up unless pushed into reaction. Don’t get me wrong, I have a wonderful group of true friends. I have a tribe of writers surrounding me that I wouldn’t trade for anything. I’m talking about a few bad apples that left a mark.
I’m curious to know if other women have had this same experience? Have you had women passive-aggressively take shots at you, compete needlessly, or do and say things behind your back to try and tear you down or make you look bad to others?
To my sisters and brothers who posted “me, too.” This post in no way is meant to diminish your trauma. This is simply part of my experience.